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Okay, this goes for girls too: Don't have sex until you can deal with the consequences.

But for guys, the rest of this is for you. I'm not getting into this because I'm straight edge, or have a grudge against anyone, but it's seriously important. I think that most guys when they have sex believe they are grown up enough to deal with the consequences. The thing is, though, not all of you are. No matter how grown up or responsible you are, you can still not be able to handle certain outcomes of sex. No, this isn't just about being a man and stepping up as a father if your girl get's pregnant. It's part of it, but not all of it. I'm going to talk about the possibility of a girl's emotions, if she does get pregnant, if she get's an abortion, if she gives the baby up for adoption, or if she has a miscarriage. I know it doesn't seem like a happy topic, but you need to know how some girls think.

See, we're having a problem these days with guys using girls for sex. Girls do it too, yes I know, but we're not talking about girls doing bad things. Guys, using a girl for sex can kill her, literally. A girl can say she just wants to be friends with benefits, but everytime most girls have sex, they give you something more than just their bodies. We tend to fall in love with the boys we sleep with, whether or not that was in the plans. Or, we believe you love us, and when we find out we were just a piece of meat, a lot of us begin doing things that can be very self destructive. This doesn't mean we cut our wrists, although some girls will resort to that. No, our emotions can get the best of us and we (and anyone, for that matter) can actually die from being depressed. If we think we were just a thing, an item for your pleasure, and that we can just be thrown away, we will eventually hate ourselves. We will think we are ugly, or that we are not good enough for anyone. We will begin to eat less, sleep less, spend more time caking make-up on our faces, trying to fit into that size 0 (How the ******** is size 0 hot?) pants. We will begin to stress out, our pulse will quicken and we will get sick. I know a one night stand or friends with benefits sounds fun, but the outcome can be that person ending up in the hospital.

And pregnancy? Another problem we have is that our guys have begun abandoning us. Girls shouldn't be whores anyway, and that's what many of us have become, but when we do have sex with that person we trust enough to do so with, he needs to step up and accept his responsibilities. If you can't handle a baby DON'T HAVE SEX!!!!!!!! AND DON'T ASK YOU GIRLFRIEND TO GET AN ABORTION!!!!!!!! That is HER choice, not yours. Step up, be a man, and provide. You took the ride, now you got to provide. Catchy, eh? It's true.

So, abortion. While I think it is the most disgusting thing in the entire universe, it is up to the individual's morals. You cannot ask your girlfriend or mate to have an abortion, it's not fair and it can scar her for life. Even girls who want them at times will despair after and hate themselves. And why? Well, this is abortion: {edited for content} Would you subject your loved one, or any girl for that matter, to live with the memory she did this to her baby? You might have planted the seed, but she's the one that lives with this forever.

Adoption. While you should reap what you sow, many people do not want to deal with their "mistakes", you should. You did the deed, deal with your seed. However, this is a better alternative than abortion. This is a decision that is to be made by both parents, and is often better to do if there is low income or conditions are not right for the child. Don't have sex if that is the case, but nothing I say will stop anyone. If you make a mother give up her child, she could die from it. I know it keeps coming to death, but it's a fact. Women have actually died from being seperated from their children. DON'T HAVE SEX IF YOU CAN'T HANDLE BEING A FATHER!!!

And last, but the most important one to me for the mothers this happens to. When most women miscarry their children, whether or not she knew it was growing inside her, she is left with a gap in her. It is this huge gaping wound that cannot be filled with anything but the healing of time. You cannot do a lot to help her, but you can comfort her. And what if you can't handle her sudden fits of crying, or her talk of feeling empty? Hold her. Don't leave her to figure it out herself, don't listen to your family when they tell you that she is ruining your life. You ******** her, it was your child too, grow a d**k and be there for her. She may never be better, and if you are no longer happy the only thing you may be able to do is leave her. But for God's sake, make sure she has good people around her to comfort her. You helped make the baby she lost, and if you honeslty love someone, you will stay by their side through anything life can bring you, whether or not you can handle it because honestly, boys, we are fragile. Girls think so much, and our hearts are so big, we can be hurt by the smallest things. Why do you think sappy movies make up cry, even when they're corny? Why do you think we burst into tears when something overwhelmingly happy happens? We're sensitive, and if you leave us in our time of need, you should die. Okay, maybe not that extreme, but leaving a girl who cries every night because she lost her baby shows you have a serious problem with manhood. Also, you have to look at how you're taking the situation. If you bring it up all the time and expect her not to cry, you're an a*****e. If you leave her after you do this to her, you are not a man. Simple as that.


Using myself as an example:
I know it's all harsh, but I've gone through three miscarriages, and two of them were with someone I really truly love with all my heart. He brought it up all the time, forced me to talk about it, and left me because part of what he had with me he couldn't handle. I'm better about them, it hurts, you never truly get over losing a baby, but you get better, and you live on. I'm fighting anorexia, which is not something a lot of people see me having to deal with. I'm not as strong as I seem, as shown by my blogs, but when I am upset I stop eating and I begin excersizing extremely bad. I also cut myself, but seeing this could happen I did the smart thing and put all the knives in the kitchen and won't let myself be at home alone. I don't like to do it, but everyone deals with pain in a different way. I'm self abusive, and if the man I am with cannot handle it, then he should hold me. If he can't do that either, he is not good enough.

I hope this makes some of you realize a few things. Most of the guys I know are very mature, and very intelligent and strong, and I love you guys for that. Treat your girl how she should be treated, and if you can't deal with a part of her, don't have sex with her. Don't lead her on, don't break her spirit. All girls deserve to be treated like princesses. All of us deserve to be loved.

* When I say most or many, it means I'm trying to show you I know not everyone acts the same way. Not every man abandons their girlfriend, and not every girl reacts the same to certain situations. If that is going to be an argument, grow up, I won't respond to, "Not all {whoever} do that!"
I know this.