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I have been dating this guy for more than a year, and have always chosen him over things important to me. We were engaged for a while, but now it's over. Here's why:

Recently, I began babysitting for his room-mate's child. She said that I should call in more hours than I worked and get paid more, and give whatever's left to her. I thought that was cool, because she said she was going to give me extra money for taxes. Well, last night I got my check and I saw that they took FICA taxes out of my check and other taxes, but they don't take out income tax. So I had to save that money. My mom and I figured out that we should save 25% of my check for tax. As I got around to figuring out the total of what I had to save and what the woman I was working for wanted, she ended up taking 33% of my check and I ended up with $90, while she got $350. I then was talking to my advisory teacher about it and she said to me, "You know this is illegal, don't you?" No, I did not know it was illegal. I did not think this woman would put me into a situation where I could get jailed, fined and have my life ruined from here on in until I die. So I told her I did not want to continue calling in more hours than I worked.
She fired me.
I called my mom and told her what happened. She called DSHS (Department of Social and Health Services, who I was really employed under. She wasn't paying me, I was getting money from the state. Calling in more hours is stealing from the government.) Anyway, she called and told them what the woman had told me to do, and that she fired me.
I then found out my boyfriend was doing the same thing for his sister. You see, it is not his sister or room-mate that would get in trouble for us calling in more hours, we would. I decided that he should stop doing this, because it is illegal. I told him as much, and I told him before that if he did something that could potentially ruin his life, and potentially mine because if he can't get credit after getting in trouble with the government, we will never be able to buy a home, or a car, or provide well for our children. I also don't want to be a part of something illegal, I have morals against it, even if "Everyone else does it" because it's not the government's money we're taking, it's tax payers' money. I have a serious problem about stealing.
He told me he had made a promise to his sister (a sister who constantly uses him for her own gain) that he would give the money to her. I told him that it was illegal, and that he could choose between me and doing something illegal. He chose to do the illegal thing, I told him we cannot be together because he chose something bad over me.

Did I do something wrong? He's blaming me for getting his room-mate in trouble, for making his sister angry, for upsetting everyone even though I don't believe people that care about you would put you into a very potentially life-ruining place.