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Hey it isn't an issue its normal and its far more common than everyone seems to think.

I do the exact same thing and am in a similer situation. Some girls just can't have orgasms from intercourse. My BF hasn't gotten me to have an orgasm... EVER and thats from a year and abit whitch we've been doing stuff like this for, however I've gotten him off countless times.

he knows he's never gotten me off but he thinks he's gotten me alot closer than he actually has becasue I do what you do... play along. It makes him happy and that makes me happy him having a good self esteem about himself.

(I am SO glad he dosen't read this stuff or I would be in so much trouble)

Rule of thumb as I understand it... guys don't mind too much begin wrong in understanding women... they don't like not understanding and learning nothing from experiences making them think "women are fickle".

If there is somthing will can do to make you sexually aroused even if its odd and raises eyebrows amoungt the chattering classes then DO IT! Tell him! he would love any oppertunity to make you feel as good as your obviously making him feel. (assuming you arouse him O_o)

If there is no physical way that you can see it working tho or simply don't know... Your best making it up. Unless your REALLY not enjoying what he is doing.

PS: I'm often refered to as 'undersexed' but definatly not asexual. I certainly have feelings of attraction for the opposite sex

Our little [Q] is becoming a wo/man..

Quick, everyone get tetanus shots.

Welcome to the sexual playgrounds, Q. Watch your head, and enjoy all the bullshit they bring.

Lol, thanks Twist.

Darkphantom: By not get off I don't mean orgasm. XD
I mean. Not being aroused.

And yes, I arouse him. He said I'm better than everyone else he's been with. XDDD
Which I find funny.

Must be all that porn I read/looked at when trying to find something that would arouse me, back when I was trying insanely hard.
And cybering. <3 cybering practice before irl.

IT WORKS YOU KNOW. >_>

Anyway.

I did try one thing that I thought might get me off. I brought a collar and a leash one day.
The problem is, Will isn't that dominant. And it really frustrates me when I have to tell him when he can make the first move or if he's allowed to do something to me.
I figured. "Whatever you want"... THREE TIMES.. would make a little sense to him. But he kept asking if things were okay.

And I suppose that's the sign of an awesome guy there, but it's still frustrating. :<

The first time I told him it was okay to go to bed(and I say that because we're not having sex or oral) I got ontop one time, and was licking him behind the ear, groping him(Because he asked, honestly I didn't really think he'd like that) and dry humping him.
And he talks a lot, he manages to tell me what to do without embarrassment(unlike myself), and he said "You know, this is what I'd have a guy do" when an hour before, he said he wanted to be the guy.

I find it really difficult to make this damn physical thing work if he keeps these inconsistancies. >_<

But, back to the collar and leash.

What it ended up with was... He had too much responsibility, or strength, or something.. And he didn't know what to do with it.

The collar was fine, we were actually going somewhere with that, but the leash wasn't put to much use. (I was wearing them, not him)

Edit:

Normally the guy comment would've been a compliment, were it not that he stated HE wanted to wear the pants earlier.

Let him do it. It may not be fair, but just let him do it xD

Yeah, I've nothing else to add.