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November 24th


Yep, this day sucked. Apparently, on the 23rd, a few of my friends decided to talk to someone who had been causing problems within 'the group'.

Now, long story short, they all apparently think they are God, and can automatically throw someone out of a group, who just keeps on coming back after being rejected. The guy made some abortion jokes in front of a friend, almost aborted as a child, and ended up sending her bawling out of the cafeteria.

Now here's the kicker. My friends decided, we need to vote to kick him out of the group, actually it was one in particular. She said we should vote to see if we keep him in the group. Well, apparently, since I said I really couldn't care less about the guy, and I hated him to begin with because he was a possessive pr*ck, I was put down as a 'no'.

Of course they tried to tell him about all this, and the one who started the whole f-ed up thing, went and said, "Ya' know what, I don't want to be part of the group anymore, and I forgive this guy for the hundredth time." And also, she seems to be blaming my Rabbit friend for this, because he basically told the guy who's not being mentioned, "Look, your being an a** hole." But not so rudely, seeing as how he does not curse. Instead, he explained step by step why we were tired of his Bull Sh*t. So the girl that started all this had no right to say, 'Oh, it's all his fault.'

Now, A few of them went to the library, including my rabbit friend, confused that the girl who started the whole damn pole to get rid of him now sided with the problem. She came back and said in a nutshell, "God created ______, and that means he's perfect the way he is, and doesn't have to change." Um, HELLO? Sorry, I think your sanity checked out already. Who was the one that said it was time to get rid of him in the first place?

Now, I went over to her house (She has a twin sister I am also friends with, and was the previous girl-friend of the jerk), and she said that she was just tired of everyone deciding who got kicked out when, and that she didn't want to be part of it anymore. (And who said they wanted to start the pole to get him kicked out hm? But I digress.) Now, I go to the bedroom with her sister, and get her side of the story which was pretty much the same. But not bashing my bunny friend so much. Now, the girl who started all this came in while we were talking and said (The 'G' stands for the girl who started it, the 'M' stands for the one I'm talking to and 'I' stands for me.)

G: So...What are you guys talking about?
M: Nothing really, I was just telling her what happened.
G: Yeah, probably sucking up to Rabbit, and Bashing Nathan no doubt.
I: Um, no, we've already moved from that G.
G: Yeah right.
M: ... Um... G, can you please leave we were talking about something...
G: ...
M: G? Can you please leave.
G: ... NO, I don't think I will, I don't have to.
M And I: ................
G: *Finally leaves*
END
And so we moved on to other topics of conversation. Now, I scoured the internet, trying to find a source to the problem so I wouldn't have to type one out, and found an article that easily solves my problem, except that the problem was a girl instead of a boy AND a girl.

Here was the solution (Pretty much EXACTLY what I've decided.)


Dear Dish-it,

All my friends fight continuously and because of that we are not as close as before. My friends and I talked and decided our ex-friend was the cause of all the fighting. After a while my friends said they wanted to be friends with her again – but I still hate her. Help me.
Tense Friend



Dear TF,

I’m sad and sorry to hear that you and your friends fight so much. Actually, when I read your letter it sort of sounded like these people weren’t your friends at all. Friends don’t fight like cats and dogs. Sure, there’s a misunderstanding or argument in every once in a while, but the way you describe your fighting it sounds much more serious than that.

I also want to say that it was wrong for you and some of your friends to decide behind the girl’s back that she was the cause of all the fighting. I mean, eventually, your friends decided they wanted to hang out with her again, so what was the point of talking behind her back like that? I don’t know if she really did cause all the fighting or not, but the rest of you should have been the better people and not turned around and ganged up on her like that. To me, it sounds a lot like bullying.

Now, there seem to be a couple of issues you need to sort out for yourself. Remember, I’m giving this advice to you, not to the rest of your group of friends, because you’re the one who wrote in to me for help. If the rest of your friends want to know what they should do, they can write to me, too, in their own words, with their own side of the story.

So in your case, you need to sit back and really think long and hard about these friendships of yours. Like I said at the beginning of this note, it really doesn’t sound like you guys are all good friends at all, fighting constantly and ganging up behind each other’s backs. Do these girls really bring out the best in you like real friends should? Or do they make you into someone who tries to blame her problems on someone else and who uses the word “hate” to describe a fellow human being?

I say let your “friends” be friends with whoever they want. If they fought once they’ll probably fight again and break up as friends and, who knows, maybe even make up again to start the vicious cycle all over again. I think the time is right for you as an individual person with her own mind to decide to look for better friends – friends who don’t fight and cause drama and stress. Friends you can say are truly there for you, who your truly admire as people – friends you would never say that you “hate.”

And if you still believe this group of girls are the right friends for you, then you need to quickly shed your attitude of hate and blame and start acting like a good friend to them. Have you ever heard of the saying “Do unto other as you would have them do unto you?” Well, it basically means you should treat others the way you want to be treated yourself. If you stop fighting with everyone and going around placing blame and spewing hatred, and instead act kind and friendly and nice to everyone around you (no matter what you think of them and no matter what they do) then you may be surprised to see that your friends will start treating you with the same kindness and respect. And if they don’t, well, I’ve proved my case – these aren’t your real friends at all.

-End

So yeah, that's pretty much my answer to everyone on Gaia that knows what I'm talking about (Kyzer, Mizu, other school friends)
I'm done. If this Sh*t isn't taken care of soon I'm done. I'm not in this anymore, it's your problem.

-Moon

*Credits to Dish-it for the article*