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Entry Fifty-Four...Prime Example. |
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This recent situation has to be one. And example of what? Why I particularly dislike the concept of love.
The general reason that I'm not fond of love (or what I guess is part of it), is that existing friendships are lessened in the face of it. No matter how well you know someone, no matter how much you trust someone as a friend, if love is involved then that "special someone" is automatically raised up above everyone else. Don't say the opposite, because in some respects it's true. Take an example: A friend wants go somewhere with you on the weekend. You say maybe next time because you just want to sit around and relax. However, later, when the "special someone" asks if you want to spend time together on the weekend, you agree.
Perhaps that's because you love them and that your answer is different because you have some different "connection" with them rather than your friend. Now I can imagine that if your "special someone" asked you first, then that's fine. But if your friend did before and then you change your mind, isn't that biased somehow?
Anyway, the situation is this. For about a week or more, I've wanted to hang out with two people at the same time, a meet-up. I hadn't seen either of them for pretty much the whole summer. I'd like to say that it was my plan/idea in the first place because that's how I feel it is. The first time, one of them had forgotten something had already been planned. So we rescheduled for the next weekend on the same day. However then the other one had something come up, so we rescheduled for the next day. I'm assuming that because of the 30-40 minutes it took for me to respond to the two of them on that day, they assumed that I was out of the meet-up.
So when I called, not knowing one had called before and said something close to "before it's too late", they already had plans. So apparently, when the previous plans had almost been carried out and slightly voided because of time, they had re-planned without even having the hint of hope or thought for me. Sure, they said "sorry, maybe next time we can hang out", but that's not it. These two are boyfriend and girlfriend, and very good friends of mine before they found each other. Yet when I am late, they take that time meant for "us" and switched it to "them", to hang out with each other instead of all of us, as if I don't really matter or have a significant part in it.
If it hadn't been for me, they wouldn't be together right now while I sit and type. Apparently, their love is more important than our friendship as a whole for one simple occasion...I can't believe it, I thought they would think more of our friendship. Clearly, they don't.
--Ty the Overlord
 Ty Gwynnia · Sun Jul 31, 2011 @ 10:47pm · 0 Comments |
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